Dear Non-Creative Friend . . .
post by Michelle Griep
I'm an introvert. Why is that so hard to believe? Because as an artist there are certain times when I'm in public that I have to be switched "on," meaning I need to be gregarious, winsome, and generally engaging if I have any hope of selling my work. But I'm happiest when I'm in my creative cave. Alone. And that's really hard for non-creatives to understand. So in light of this disconnect, here is a handy-dandy letter any creative-type person can feel free to use . . .
Dear Non-Creative Friend,
I am not mad/upset/depressed/grouchy or moody. The reason I am not talking to you is that my brain is busy creating alternate realities that don't involve you. Nothing personal, mind you. Generally I only talk when I have something to say.
I am not going to answer your text the second you send it. I will eventually punch in a reply, but chances are if you call me, I will not call you back. And I probably won't pick up the phone, either. Again, nothing personal. Mostly it's just that phone talking drains my creative energy.
Yes, I am enjoying myself. Sitting for hours on end writing may not be your idea of a good time, but hot dang! There's honestly nothing I'd rather be doing more . . . except for reading.
This is a job. No, really. I actually get paid for this. Would you badger a neurosurgeon to drop what he's doing to have coffee with you? Why is making art less important? Okay, so no one is dying on the operating table if I do take a coffee break, but that doesn't justify disrespecting the value of art creation.
Thank you, friend, for understanding. Or at least trying to. I love you. You are special. You are a HUGE blessing in my life. I couldn't do this life journey without you.
Now quit bugging me.
I'm an introvert. Why is that so hard to believe? Because as an artist there are certain times when I'm in public that I have to be switched "on," meaning I need to be gregarious, winsome, and generally engaging if I have any hope of selling my work. But I'm happiest when I'm in my creative cave. Alone. And that's really hard for non-creatives to understand. So in light of this disconnect, here is a handy-dandy letter any creative-type person can feel free to use . . .
Dear Non-Creative Friend,
I am not mad/upset/depressed/grouchy or moody. The reason I am not talking to you is that my brain is busy creating alternate realities that don't involve you. Nothing personal, mind you. Generally I only talk when I have something to say.
I am not going to answer your text the second you send it. I will eventually punch in a reply, but chances are if you call me, I will not call you back. And I probably won't pick up the phone, either. Again, nothing personal. Mostly it's just that phone talking drains my creative energy.
Yes, I am enjoying myself. Sitting for hours on end writing may not be your idea of a good time, but hot dang! There's honestly nothing I'd rather be doing more . . . except for reading.
This is a job. No, really. I actually get paid for this. Would you badger a neurosurgeon to drop what he's doing to have coffee with you? Why is making art less important? Okay, so no one is dying on the operating table if I do take a coffee break, but that doesn't justify disrespecting the value of art creation.
Thank you, friend, for understanding. Or at least trying to. I love you. You are special. You are a HUGE blessing in my life. I couldn't do this life journey without you.
Now quit bugging me.