Dear Non-Creative Friend . . .
post by Michelle Griep
I'm an introvert. Why is that so hard to believe? Because as an artist there are certain times when I'm in public that I have to be switched "on," meaning I need to be gregarious, winsome, and generally engaging if I have any hope of selling my work. But I'm happiest when I'm in my creative cave. Alone. And that's really hard for non-creatives to understand. So in light of this disconnect, here is a handy-dandy letter any creative-type person can feel free to use . . .
Dear Non-Creative Friend,
I am not mad/upset/depressed/grouchy or moody. The reason I am not talking to you is that my brain is busy creating alternate realities that don't involve you. Nothing personal, mind you. Generally I only talk when I have something to say.
I am not going to answer your text the second you send it. I will eventually punch in a reply, but chances are if you call me, I will not call you back. And I probably won't pick up the phone, either. Again, nothing personal. Mostly it's just that phone talking drains my creative energy.
Yes, I am enjoying myself. Sitting for hours on end writing may not be your idea of a good time, but hot dang! There's honestly nothing I'd rather be doing more . . . except for reading.
This is a job. No, really. I actually get paid for this. Would you badger a neurosurgeon to drop what he's doing to have coffee with you? Why is making art less important? Okay, so no one is dying on the operating table if I do take a coffee break, but that doesn't justify disrespecting the value of art creation.
Thank you, friend, for understanding. Or at least trying to. I love you. You are special. You are a HUGE blessing in my life. I couldn't do this life journey without you.
Now quit bugging me.
Dear Non-Creative Friend,
I am not mad/upset/depressed/grouchy or moody. The reason I am not talking to you is that my brain is busy creating alternate realities that don't involve you. Nothing personal, mind you. Generally I only talk when I have something to say.
I am not going to answer your text the second you send it. I will eventually punch in a reply, but chances are if you call me, I will not call you back. And I probably won't pick up the phone, either. Again, nothing personal. Mostly it's just that phone talking drains my creative energy.
Yes, I am enjoying myself. Sitting for hours on end writing may not be your idea of a good time, but hot dang! There's honestly nothing I'd rather be doing more . . . except for reading.
This is a job. No, really. I actually get paid for this. Would you badger a neurosurgeon to drop what he's doing to have coffee with you? Why is making art less important? Okay, so no one is dying on the operating table if I do take a coffee break, but that doesn't justify disrespecting the value of art creation.
Thank you, friend, for understanding. Or at least trying to. I love you. You are special. You are a HUGE blessing in my life. I couldn't do this life journey without you.
Now quit bugging me.